Sometimes it’s hard to keep everything in check in our minds. We try to be a certain way: strong, attentive, smart. And we try to convey those things to the world, when in fact we are trying to convey it to ourselves.
The truth is, we don’t have to do that. We don’t have to do anything, really. The universe does not care if you climb the corporate ladder or choose to be a stay-at-home welfare sloth. Everything is the way it should be. There’s a quietness in this, and there’s a strength in this.
Once we realize that we are no longer obligated to live a certain way, we can choose any direction we want at any time, free of expectation. An argument against: “Well what about ambition?” Ambition is overrated. The reason to do anything is in the thing itself. I do not train my body to get big muscles, I train my body because to not train my body is misery. Lifting the barbell, in the moment, is not as fun as video games, but it’s fun as in depositing money into an investment that you know is going to help later. It feels good.
I call this type 2 fun.
The more we can genuinely enjoy type 2 fun, the better off we’ll be.
You and I have a code written within that naturally leads us in certain direction. The trick is to listen to that signal, and to tune out the noise of society. This signal naturally leads us to type 2 fun.
- Follow your curiosity, because you’re not a cat.
- Look for the type 2 fun activities. (They’re usually free or low cost and benefit you with compound interest.)
Most think they can get away with keeping things the same. The only problem is, nothing ever stays the same. We are constantly changing.
Very soon, much sooner than you’re comfortable with, you will have a life-altering day. You’ll be diagnosed, have an accident, or receive some terrible news that will greatly affect your life in every way possible, or greatly shorten your days. It’s going to happen, and soon.
When faced with this, the immediate reaction (besides the steps of grief) is “I should have done more with my time before today”.
Do don’t let that be you. One way to do this is to meditate on your own impermanence. Those of you who’ve read me for a while know this as a recurring theme, and it can help live a full life. Hold death close, as it is the ultimate reality that mirrors life. We do not see it, but it is there.
One other realization: “99 percent of everything I thought was important was absolute shit”. The premise of being alive forever is written into our lives so much that is keeps us from living. As soon as we dispense with the notion, we are able to live.
You’re going to die, just as you already have been born.
(Something about man has two lives, the second one begins as soon as he realizes he only has one)
We all have values, but how many of us are deliberate about them? A value as a mantra can change our velocity seemingly overnight, especially when the value isn’t yet a personal strength. (Excellence, integrity, etc)
But how do we get there? How do we choose what’s important to us? The good thing is we don’t’ have to look far. We already know. It’s written on our hearts. The trick is bringing what’s important to the heart to the forefront of our mind on a daily basis. The best way to do this is keeping a journal. “Easy to say, hard to do” does not apply here. Journaling takes no more than a few minutes, and the payoff is compounding.
All wealth is created by compound interest: values, relationships, investing. (I lump journaling, writing, and speaking all in relationships. With this logic it is not far too do the same with personal training and investing)
Why values? Because living deliberately is living fully. It benefits us, our families, and our communities the most. That’s what I want, and that’s what you all want.
What are some of your values that might be underdeveloped? Do you have any unpopular values?
We tend to think that it’s the big grand gestures that move us forward, then it’s the little things.
Little blogs, little friends, and little actions on our part.
Cheers to the death of driving yourself into the ground.
It’s important to have habits and checklists when things get foggy. It’s also important to remember that things will not always be foggy, and you’ll eventually look back and wish you had performed better.
The problem is, there’s a negative connotation around performance. It’s reality meets the individual. It’s harsh. But then again, so is life. Anyone saying otherwise is selling something. Life requires you to be harsh sometimes, but we can reserve those ‘sometimes’ to expecting excellence from ourselves.
Don’t just survive the fog. That’s what most people do. Punch through it.